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A shoe rack with three tiers, capable of holding about 9 pairs of shoes, with 6 pairs of shoes on it.

The Best Shoe Rack for Your Money

Well, I love to write about shoes on here, so we should talk about how to keep them organized. What’s the best shoe rack that’s reasonably priced and well made? For many years, I used a simple white stacking shelf from Target as my shoe rack because at $13.99, the price was right.

However, this shelf was not ideal. First, it requires some effort to assemble. The stacking mechanism isn’t great with a flimsy connection at best. And because it’s made out of composite wood, it’s heavy. Moving several of these is a pain. Another annoyance: white plastic caps try to mask the screws on the sides but they’re always falling off.

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My Shoe Rack Search

I wanted to upgrade to something sturdier, easier to put together, and more attractive. But getting something like the shoe rack below from West Elm is laughable. Though it’s lovely (and pricey), it’s not practical at all — unless you own only three pairs of shoes. That definitely is not me.

So I went in search of a new shoe rack. My requirements:

  • easy to assemble
  • strong yet lightweight
  • stackable
  • sturdy
  • moderately priced
  • not ugly

The Winner: Seville Classics 3-Tier Utility Shoe Rack

After researching many options, here’s what I ended up with — tada! Here’s the best shoe organizer for your money.

A three-tier slatted shoe rack

Seville Classics Shoe Rack – $29.99. Update: In 2024, they are now 49.99 or 79.99 for two.

This is the Seville Classics 3-Tier Resin Slat Utility Shoe Rack and it met all my requirements. It has an iron frame, which means it’s strong. I wouldn’t say it’s lightweight, but it’s not heavy. I can pick up the whole thing with nine pairs of shoes on it no problem.

The shoe rack arrives flat and assembles easily. No tools required! Just unfold the frame, and then snap the shelves in place. (This means that it will also be easy to move because you can transport it flat).

The shelves are roomy — there’s 5 3/4″ between each shelf. I could fit 3-inch heels on them (but I have a small shoe size: 6.5-7). If you need more space, such as for boots, you can leave out a shelf like this:

A slatted rack with a shelf at the bottom and the top.

The shelves of the Seville Classic shoe rack are removable so that you can configure them how you like.

It comes with connector pins if you want to stack them. I stacked three of them vertically and they’re not wobbly at all. You can also adjust the feet, as they are screwed on, to level the shelf.

A tall shelf with nine shelves holding shoes, three pairs per shelf.

Three of the Seville Classic shoe racks stacked together.

Aesthetics & Durability

Is it the most attractive shoe rack in the world? No. But it’s handsome enough. It has a clean, neutral style, which means that it can fit in with a lot of decor. There’s also a mesh shelf version, but I think the slatted shelves are more attractive (and easier to dust).

Each three-shelf unit is $29.99. You can get it from Seville Classics, Amazon, and other retailers. I added a hook to the side to hang a shoe horn. (Both are from Daiso, the Japanese dollar store. The hook attaches via an adjustable gripper and I have no idea what it’s called or where you can get one too, but you can also use a magnet hook.)

So far, I’m very pleased with this shoe rack. It’s well made and sturdy. Plus, I love that you can configure it in different ways. That means it can adapt to different spaces. I also put two of these in my closet for clothes storage. I stack my jeans on them. I’ve recommended this shoe rack to friends, and now I recommend it to you!

UPDATE 3/30/24 – I just want to mention that I moved across the country with these racks, and as I surmised, they were easy to move. I took all the shelves out and folded up the frames. The movers taped the sets of shelves together, which meant I had to clean off sticky tape residue. But that aside, they survived just fine and I was able to reassemble them into configurations that work for my new space.

A calendar that says "this week" with a sharpie pen on top of it and a camera nearby.

5 Month Wedding Timeline & To Do List

Today I’m sharing my wedding to do list so that you can see the details of planning a wedding and when we did them. This is a month-by-month list of our tasks and deadlines.

Let me first give you some context about our wedding, though. Because I work in a creative field, I already knew some of the vendors I wanted to hire (such as the photographer, makeup artist, and day of coordinator). If you don’t have people in mind already, you’ll likely need to do some of the things on this list sooner than I did.

For example, I didn’t have a trial with my makeup artist until three months out, but I knew her work already and was confident she was right for me. If you decide to hire a makeup artist but don’t have someone in mind, you should start earlier with makeup trials to ensure that the artist is someone you want to work with. Also, I wore a fairly simple lace dress (which I snagged on sale online). If you want a particular designer gown or a custom suit or other custom garment, you’ll need more time to go through fittings.

This timeline is meant to help you think about the tasks you might need to undertake, but as I wrote in my first post about weddings, prioritize what’s important to you. The items on this list are specific to what we wanted to have, but hey, you may not want a makeup artist or a rehearsal dinner. You do you!

White flowers in the foreground, and champagne glasses gathered below.

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Five Months Out

  • Book venue & pay security deposit (But honestly, I recommend starting earlier on this. In a lot of cities, you might have to book your venue a year in advance, especially if you want a certain date. We didn’t have a particular date in mind, and we also didn’t mind getting married on a Friday, which meant we had more options available. It was cheaper as well.)
  • Finalize guest list
  • Send Save the Date email (We made a little video.)
  • Book photographer
  • Book makeup artist
  • Contact catering and choose items for tasting

Four Months Out

  • Block hotel rooms
  • Create wedding website
  • Start composing day of timeline
  • Attend catering tasting
  • Research printing vendors (If you want physical invitations)
  • Book graphic designer to create invitations (If needed — there are also plenty of templates)
  • Start wedding outfit search

Three Months Out

  • Finalize wedding website
  • Print and send invitations
  • Meet with makeup artist for trial
  • Finalize menu selections with caterer
  • Obtain liability insurance
  • Pay balance to venue
  • Book bartending service (Our venue required licensed bartenders.)
  • Book photo booth (If you want one)
  • Ask someone to be our officiant
  • Make accommodation plan for families
  • Research wedding rings

Two Months Out

  • Send RSVP reminder to guests via email
  • Put deposit down on catering
  • Book day of coordinator (BTW, you don’t need someone who specializes in weddings for this. Someone who coordinates other types of events can do this.)
  • Book linens/glassware rental
  • Book entertainment/activity (For us, we asked musician friends to play. This was followed by karaoke. You might have to do this the month before, depending on what your entertainment is. We just had to rent a karaoke machine)
  • Buy decorations
  • Finalize day of timeline & send to vendors
  • Buy rings
  • Finalize day after wedding location (We had a brunch the next day for guests, but you may not even want to do this.)

One Month Out

  • Send final reminders to anyone who has not RSVPed
  • Calculate final guest count
  • Remind guests about hotel booking deadline
  • Send vendors list, guest count, timeline, & floor plan to venue
  • Get alterations, if any, for clothing (If you have complicated alterations, you may want to do this earlier)
  • Buy plates & utensils (We decided not to rent plates & cutlery and purchased compostable ones.)
  • Buy photo booth props
  • Buy favors (We ended up making ours a DIY activity, which was a big hit with kids and adults alike.)
  • Discuss photo shots & locations with photographer
  • Map out ceremony with officiant
  • Make invite list for rehearsal dinner & invite guests
  • Make reservation for rehearsal dinner
  • Get hair cut (Depending on how early you like to get your hair cut and how short you wear it. I personally like three weeks out for my hairstyle. My partner, who has much shorter hair, went the week of the wedding.)

Two Weeks Out

  • Obtain marriage license
  • Meet with catering to go over final details
  • Meet with day of coordinator
  • Send final guest count to catering, bartending, and linens rental
  • Check on rings for resizing
  • Decide what volunteer tasks are needed and ask friends
  • Email guests with reminders & details
  • Send schedules to families & friends who are involved in ceremony, set up, or tear down
  • Finalize AV needs for ceremony, musicians, & karaoke
  • Make list of who is bringing what on the day of

1 Weeks Out & The Week Of

  • Order flowers from Trader Joe’s
  • Reconfirm arrival times with all vendors
  • Pick up rings after resizing
  • Write vows
  • Get a facial & manicure
  • Pick up flowers & assemble
  • Assemble bridal bouquet
  • Finalize ceremony with officiant
  • Order lunch for pick up for day of wedding

After the Wedding

  • Pay any vendors who still need to be paid
  • Follow up email to guests (With thank yous, link to photo booth photos, lost & found list.)
  • Receive deposit back from venue
  • Write thank you notes

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Everlane Modern Point Flats shown worn on feet.

I Really Wanted to Love Everlane’s Modern Point Flat

Everlane debuted their Modern Point shoe a few years ago, but Nordstrom is currently carrying Everlane in its Pop-In@Nordstrom shop through November 12, so I thought it would be a good time to review them.

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These flats are like a classic loafer, but with the twist of a slim pointy toe. They have a three-quarter inch stacked heel. Sleek and chic, they seem like the perfect pair of flats for an office. They say, Hello, I am industriously working. Unless you are sitting on the floor like this:

Priced at $155, the Modern Point comes in eight colorways (some of them two toned), and in a regular leather version and a suede version. Made in Brescia, Italy, the regular leather ones are smooth on the sides but feature textured pebbled leather on top. They’re constructed out of all Italian leather and seem well made, if a bit stiff. The suede ones are a bit softer.

Modern Point – $155

I visited the Everlane Fit Lab in San Francisco to try these shoes on. The Fit Lab carries a small number of products. (I was told it was about 15% of their total offerings.) Shoes were scattered about, but only as display items. Luckily for me, I have a common shoe size and was able to find a display shoe in my size.

Before I continue with this review, let me share some caveats about me and my feet to give you context. My feet are flat, a little bit wide, and they are very, very picky. I have a hard time finding shoes that feel comfortable. Everlane shoes run narrow in my experience, so that’s already a strike against them for me. This shoe is no exception; Everlane advises ordering the Modern Point in a half size up. (Though if you have narrow feet, I’d order your normal size.)

I’m usually a 6.5 and tried on a 7. The width of the 7s actually worked for me for the most part, though they did pinch in the toes. But they didn’t feel as narrow to me as the Everlane Street Shoe (review here). The bigger problem was that I kept slipping out of the heel, which was surprising because many people have complained in reviews that the heel felt narrow to them.

Slipping out of a shoe at the heel is not an uncommon problem for me — and usually it’s an easy fix with a heel grip. But I have to say: these flats didn’t seem very comfortable. The synthetic sole is stiff and the interior lacks padding. The soles don’t flex much when you walk and there didn’t seem to be much shock absorption; I could really feel how hard the ground was. I just got the feeling that my feet would fatigue quickly in them.

Many people report that these shoes need a break-in period and that the leather softens over time. While that may be true, it doesn’t seem like the footbed would change that much since it isn’t made with much cushioning to begin with. Another drawback is that the soles are slippery. If you do get these, be sure to add some anti-skid pads to the soles for grip.

People seem to love these shoes (they get good reviews overall on the Everlane site), so perhaps it’s just me and my difficult feet. I do love the look of them and am bummed they don’t work for me. They’re practical and stylish.

If they had fit comfortably, I could imagine getting a lot of wear out of them. I wish Everlane made these with more cushioning. If that were the case, I might have given them a chance to see if they would stretch in the toes with repeated wears. I’m curious to hear from others who have worn this shoe for awhile if they become more comfortable over time.


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Design & Shopping Guide: Copenhagen

I spent five days in Copenhagen in August, but already I want to go back! This is a city that impressively blends old architecture with new. Beautiful, clean design is everywhere. Also impressive: about half of the population commutes by bike — and they do so stylishly. People bike in their suits or skirts and heels, which is not a sight I ever see in San Francisco. Getting around by bike is one of the joys of Copenhagen and I recommend renting a bike for at least one day if you’re up for it. Today I’m sharing a few places that I saw during my visit.

Design & Architecture

Canal Tour
Yes, it’s touristy, but so what? It’s a great way to see the city and its wonderful buildings and architectural gems, like the Cirkelbroen (circle bridge), a bike and pedestrian bridge designed by Olafur Eliasson.

Sights along the canal, including the Cirkelbroen.

Rundetaarn
This 17th century tower was commissioned by King Christian IV for stargazing. There’s no stairs (except at the very, very top), just a wide spiral pathway, which was originally build to accommodate horses hauling astrological equipment. Along the way up, you can stop by various points of interests, like the gallery space or an ancient toilet. After making your way to the top, you’re rewarded with a lovely view of the city.

View from the top of the Rundetaarn.

Christianborg Slot
Once a royal residence, Christianborg palace is now home to the Danish Parliament and the site of official events. Tour the gilded royal reception rooms and the kitchen.

One of the many rooms in Christianborg Slot.

The Royal Library (aka the Black Diamond)
The Royal Library is the national library of Denmark and the university library of the University of Copenhagen. It’s among the largest libraries in the world. In 1999, a new addition designed by Schmidt Hammer Lassen Architects opened. It’s known as the Black Diamond for its shiny, black, faceted exterior, facing the water. It’s quite nice from the inside too. I just wandered around, but if you time it right, you can see a talk or an exhibit in its gallery.

Inside the Black Diamond.

Designmuseum Danmark
If you, like me, love design, spend a few hours at this museum. My favorite exhibit is the Danish chair exhibit, where chairs are set off in cubicles in the wall, as if they were framed.

Just a few of the chairs in the chair exhibit at Designmuseum Danmark

Shopping

Illums Bolighus
I lost hours of my life in this department store, blissfully looking at everything. There are floors of Scandinavian furniture, housewares, decor, lighting, women’s clothing, men’s clothing, kids stuff.

Hay Design

If you love minimalist design, then a stop to Hay House is a must for its furniture and decor.

Fleamarkets

If you’re visiting in the spring or summer, don’t miss out on Copenhagen’s many flea markets. I stopped by the Frederiksberg Loppetorv, which is known for its clothing, though there was plenty of other treasure as well. I scored an awesome crystal-covered panther necklace. Here’s a list of flea markets on Flea Markets Insiders.

Loppenhylder

If you don’t get your fill at the Frederiksberg market, just down the street is Loppenhylder. Its shelves are stocked with retro and flea market-esque goodies and some furniture as well. I wanted to take home a chest of drawers. Alas, they don’t ship.

Vintage Shops
Copenhagen is a great city for vintage shopping. The Nørrebro neighborhood has many vintage shops and Ravnsborggade is one street known for antiques and vintage finds. It’s also the site of a flea market on Sundays.


Pelechecoco
Along with the old is the new — sort of. Pelechecoco is a sustainable brand that makes leather jackets of every color from recycled leather.

Before I left on my trip, I bought two guidebooks. The Lonely Planet Pocket book is handy for learning the lay of the land. But I especially love the Citix60 guide, as it’s full of recommendations from local creatives.

A stack of two pillows in pillow cases plus sheets folded up on top of them. They are red.

Bed Sheets Review: Target Threshold vs. Ikea Skogsnarv

Today, we’re talking about bed sheets and pitting two similar products against each other to see which one is better.

Contestant 1: Ikea Skogsnarv
Two pillows, a folded flat sheet, and a folded fitted sheet in light gray.

The Skogsnarv bed sheet set is made out of sateen cotton with 450 thread count. (Thread count, if you need a refresher, refers to the number of horizontal and vertical threads per square inch, so generally, the higher the thread count, the softer the sheet, though that’s not always true.)

Ikea sells a queen set with a flat sheet, fitted sheets, and two standard pillow cases for $49.99. In addition to the fun name (try to say Skogsnarv three times in a row), one thing that I like about this set is that the pillow cases have envelope closures. That’s the flap at the end to keep your pillow in. I believe all of Ikea’s pillowcases have this feature and I think it’s such a smart design.

I’ve had my Skognarv set for about a year now and it’s held up pretty well. The color hasn’t faded after many, many washings. It’s soft, though not remarkably soft.

Contestant 2: Target Threshold Performance Bed Sheets

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Target’s Threshold Performance Bed Sheets is also made out of sateen cotton. At 400 thread count, it has a slightly lower thread count than the Ikea set, but I can’t really discern any difference in softness. It comes in 20 different colors, and I picked this rich red color. It’s also at the same price point: $49.99 for a queen set, though you can snag it on sale sometimes.

One nice feature of these sheets is that they have serious heavy duty elastic in each corner. I imagine that comes in pretty handy for thicker mattresses. My mattress is about 8″ thick, so it’s not particularly deep, but even for my mattress, I appreciate the reinforced corners.

I’ve had these sheets for about five months. Despite numerous washes, these sheets really attract lint. I have never encountered this with a set of sheets before. Lint just loves to hang out on these sheets.

I ran a lint brush over the sheets and the amount of stuff it picked up surprised me. Even after doing that, the sheets are still covered in lint. Sure, there are various Interwebs articles that tell you how to remove lint from your bed sheets. But, this is not how I want to be spending my time!

Winner

Due to the linty situation with the Target sheets, I declare the Ikea Skogsnarv the winner. Now, I don’t know if the lint situation with Target’s sheets is only limited to the red, or if it’s an issue with all 20 colors or just some of the colors. I’m curious to hear from someone else who owns these Threshold sheets in another color if they have a lint problem too. (Please leave a comment if you know! I’m certainly not going to buy another set to find out.) UPDATE 3/7/20: A reader reports that other colors don’t attract lint.

One bummer about the Ikea Skogsnarv is that it only comes in three colors: white, teal, and light gray. Please make these sheets in more colors, Ikea!

UPDATE 12/10/17 – I’m trying to be better about making ethical shopping choices, so I’m updating my posts with info about where and how things were made. The Target sheets were made in India and the Ikea ones in China. I don’t know under what conditions these were produced, though both companies were named top ethical companies by the Ethisphere Institute in 2010.

UPDATE 12/15/19 – It’s two years later now and I can report that the Target Threshold sheets have finally stopped being linty. I’m not sure when this happened exactly, but I was just folding laundry and noticed this. The Ikea sheets are about three years old now and the fitted sheet has gotten loose on the sides. I now feel that the Target sheets might be more durable, but it’s hard to know for sure since I bought these sheet sets at different times. I’ve owned the Ikea sheets for at least seven months longer than the Target ones.

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A Blogger Favorite: Leith’s Ruched Bodycon Tank Dress

The problem with social media is that sometimes you accidentally see things and then you want to buy them. This was the case when I first saw the Leith Ruched Bodycon Tank Dress on Extra Petite. Perhaps it’s redundant for me to post about it too — apparently it’s a blogger favorite.

But, I thought maybe I could bring a different perspective as someone who is trying to be picky about what I bring into my wardrobe. All these other people have raved about it. It’s flattering, they say. It’s versatile. And it’s priced at $56! Is it really that great? OK, let’s see about that. Off I went to Nordstrom, which carries this brand.

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My first impression was meh because it doesn’t look like much on the rack. If I hadn’t already seen how great it looked on other people, I would have passed this rack by.

This dress comes in 10 colors. I went looking for the black one. For someone who loves black, surprisingly I don’t own a little black dress. (I mean, if you don’t count the one with embellished bugs on it.) Unfortunately the store close to me was out of most sizes in black, so I ordered online.

The tank dress has no zipper. Just slip it over your head. Although the dress is a bodycon fit, it’s made out of a thick T-shirt material (a polyester and cotton blend). While it does hug you close, it doesn’t feel too tight. The Nordstrom website advises to go up a size if you want a looser fit. I’m a dress size 4, so I ordered a small (my regular size), and medium.

Here I’m wearing small on the left and medium on the right. The medium was a bit looser all around, and also longer. (I’m 5′ 4″ for reference.) The neckline is also lower. The ruching on this dress is cleverly placed across the mid section to help hide any imperfections around the tummy area. However, I found that works better in darker colors than the lighter ones. I tried some of the lighter colors on in store and they were not as flattering as the black. So if you have a tummy pooch like yours truly, you might want to stick to the darker colors.

Here is the side view. Please pay no attention to my not-flat stomach. Instead, notice the armhole situation. The armhole was just too big on the medium, exposing my bra. Jean from Extra Petite mentions that she took the armholes in on hers. It’s a trick of hers to make regular-sized clothing better fit petite bodies. I contemplated doing that since I do like the longer length of the medium. But in the end I realized the small fit better all around, and I won’t have to alter anything.

So yes, I decided to keep this dress in a small. How did it gain a spot in my closet when I’m trying to downsize? Usually, I would never wear a bodycon dress like this because it would be too constricting (and um, because tummy pooch). But the genius of this dress is the fabric.

The T-shirt material makes this dress comfortable, and the ruching makes it flattering. It’s elegant in design, yet not fussy because of the fabric. I think the material even makes it a good item to pack for traveling. It doesn’t seem like you’d have to worry too much about it wrinkling. And it’s easy to take care of: just put it in the washer and let it air dry. Those other bloggers were right: it’s versatile and can be worn casually or easily dressed up. Adding a skinny belt elevates it.

Leith Ruched Bodycon Tank Dress // J. Crew Skinny Belt [similar] // Miz Mooz Peep Toe Block Heels [similar]

Throw on a cropped jacket, grab a clutch, and you’re ready for a night out on the town.

Leith Ruched Bodycon Tank Dress // Cropped Moto Jacket [similar] // Baggu Leather Pouch [similar]

This dress also comes in a long sleeve version (5 colors) for $59. I think it’s a great buy at a nice price. And now I’ve got that wardrobe staple I didn’t have before, the little black dress.

UPDATE 12/10/17 – I’m trying to be better about making ethical shopping choices, so I’m updating posts with info about the production of items. This dress is cotton and polyester. Polyester is petroleum-based, not biodegradable, and its microfibers pollute our oceans. It was made in China, and I don’t have any info on the labor practices of the factory that made it.

DIY Wedding Flowers: a hand holds a jar with flowers

How I Spent $100 on Wedding Flowers & Decor

As I mentioned in my first wedding post, it’s important to prioritize your wedding budget. Once you know what’s most important to you, reserve your energy and budget for those items. Then, you can find ways to save on the things you care less about. For us, we weren’t particular about decorations and didn’t want to spend much money on it. I allocated $100 to decorations and decided to DIY them. Here’s what we ending up spending:

Lanterns – $25
Photo Frames – $12
Flowers – $70
Bridal Bouquet & Floral Tape – $18
Vases – $0

TOTAL – $125

After the wedding, I sold the lanterns for $20, so we ended up spending $105.

How our venue choice shaped our decor

Our choice in venue actually impacted how we decorated. Honestly, the venue had to be a certain level of nice for my mom. We looked at some venues that cost less to rent, but they seemed charming in a slightly run-down way she would have complained about. (I’ve mentioned my mom and her expectations twice now, so maybe I will do a post later on how to manage expectations with your family members. Heh.)

Because the venue we chose was well-maintained, we didn’t feel the need to add many decorations. So in a way, the costs of decorations was absorbed by our choice in venue. But we did add some personal touches. My friends made decorations for my bachelorette party that were based on our invitation design. I saved them and reused them for our wedding. This cost us nothing!

Another requirement in our venue search was that it have an outdoor space because I really wanted to get married outside. We found a venue that was adjacent to a public park, which we were allowed to use for the ceremony. The park itself was beautiful, so all we did was add some paper lanterns to the ceremony area.

How I spent $100 on wedding decor: colorful lanterns hang from trees.

We needed some signage, so I thrifted vintage photo frames from Goodwill.

a selection of four vintage photo frames in gold or brass colors

A few of the photo frames we used at our wedding.

Flowers for the Frugal-Minded

Lastly, what to decorate the tables with? Most people decorate with flowers, but this was not necessarily a given for us. I have a confession: I don’t care much for flowers. Perhaps it’s because I was raised in an frugal immigrant family, but flowers always seemed like an extravagant expense to me because well, they die.

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This is not to say I don’t enjoy flowers or admire their inherent beauty. I do, and at the end of the day I decided that flowers were the easiest (and prettiest) decorations to use. While professional flower arrangements for a wedding our size can run at least $1,000, the fact that we did them ourselves meant we paid less than one-tenth of that.

Here’s what I did: First, I decided to use plain jars for vases. This cost nothing but time and elbow grease in cleaning the jars and taking labels off of them. For months, I saved jars and asked friends to do the same. We had 11 tables. I decided to put a trio of jars (small, medium, large) on each table at the reception. We also had a few other tables and surfaces to decorate. In total, this ended up being about 40 jars.

Is a naked spaghetti sauce jar at a wedding tacky? Some people might think so, but I like the simplicity. You could always tie a ribbon or dress up the jar in some other way, but I didn’t want to use any extra materials so I went with plain jars. Another priority was that clean up after the wedding be as easy as possible. I also didn’t want to carry any stuff home that I didn’t have to. At the end of the night, we combined flowers into our jar-vases for guests to take, and then we recycled the remaining jars right at the venue. Easy!

OK, here’s my big tip for saving money on flowers: Trader Joe’s. Yup. On the rare occasions that I did buy flowers for myself, I bought them at Trader Joe’s because I couldn’t stand to spend more than $5 for a bundle of flowers. So I figured, why not buy flowers for my wedding from them?

Trader Joe’s has great prices on flowers. The large bunches of chrysanthemums (the green, purple, brown, and white ones) in the center? $3.99. Gerber daisies to the top and left? Also $3.99. Hydrangea? $6.49. Their bouquets start at just $3.99.

A hand holding a small bouquet of flowers. They are yellow and purple.

Trader Joe’s Small Bouquet, $3.99

A hand holding a large bouquet of flowers. They are yellow and purple.

Trader Joe’s Large Bouquet, $9.99

Here’s what you do: Talk to your store manager. The manager can share an inventory sheet with you that shows the types of flowers that they get and their costs. Then you place an order about a week ahead of time. The essential thing about ordering flowers from Trader Joe’s is that you can’t be picky about them. You see, they don’t hold them for you. They just order extra to make sure there’s enough, but they’ll put them out on the floor where anyone can grab them. You also can’t stipulate what colors you want. If you have a specific color scheme for your wedding, then this may not work. I didn’t care as long as the flowers weren’t white.

I ordered my flowers about a week in advance, and then the day that they came in, we picked them up in the morning from the regular flower display area. A friend and I made all the arrangements, which were very simple. It probably took us about an hour. If you want a fuller look than what we did, you can always add more greenery. (The photo at the top of this post is a good example. Stems of eucalyptus make great filler and smell great too.)

Trimming flowers. Make sure that there are no leaves in the water, like the one in the front here. We had to go back and trim that one.

Flower arrangements in jars, all boxed up and ready to go. We took them to the venue the day before the wedding, storing them in refrigerators overnight.

If you don’t have a Trader Joe’s in your area, then visit a grocery store. Flowers at a grocery store are generally more affordable than flowers from a florist. You can also order flowers online. For my bouquet, I wanted more control over the colors because they had to look nice with my red dress. I stopped by Whole Foods the day before the wedding, picked up two bouquets, and combined them together with floral tape. Then, I wrapped ribbon I had lying around from an Everlane order over the floral tape. Total cost of my bouquet? $18!

Professional bridal bouquets run around $100 and up — even as much as $200 depending on the kinds of flowers used. But I didn’t mind that my bouquet was amateur. It just had to be nice enough. I figured people look at the bride, not her flowers, anyway. One thing I wish I had done in retrospect, though, was to ask the tailor who hemmed my dressed to save some of the fabric she cut off. Using that to wrap the bouquet would have been nicer than random ribbon.

Close up of bouquet in purple, pink, orange, with two hands holding it.

There’s one more thing I want to bring up: using local flowers. I tried to plan a wedding that was mindful of the environment and wouldn’t be wasteful. We reused items (photo frames, jars), used compostable plates and utensils for the reception, and provided to-go containers so that food wouldn’t go to waste. I didn’t think about this until after the wedding, but local flowers are generally better for the environment. There’s less of a carbon footprint associated with them because they don’t need to be shipped from far away or covered in chemicals to preserve them. There’s also the question of whether fair labor practices were used to grow flowers abroad.

According to this news story, Trader Joe’s flowers come from Colombia. But at my local store, I found that quite a few blooms were grown in the U.S., many in California. The Trader Joe’s bouquets shown above were grown in California. Here’s a sampling of prices and origins of flowers I saw recently at a Trader Joe’s:

Alstroemeria, 9 stems, $3.99, Rainforest Alliance Certified
Calla Lilies, 8 stems, $4.99, USA
Chamomile, $3.99, USA
Chrysanthemums, 10 stems, $3.99, Rainforest Alliance Certified
Dianthus, 10 stems, $3.99, Colombia
Gerber Daisies, 6 stems, $3.99, California
Hydrangeas, 4 stems, $6.49, Colombia
Spray Roses, 8 stems, $4.99, Rainforest Alliance Certified
Stargazer Lilies (aka Asiatic Lilies), 4 stems, $5.99, USA

We only spent $88 on all of our flowers. I don’t think buying them truly local — from a nearby farm — would have fit in our budget. But buying American-grown flowers would have worked. I’ve also noticed that Whole Foods carries some local flowers. While more pricey than Trader Joe’s, the prices are reasonable. I saw a bunch of 10 calla lilies for $10, and for $8 you can get 10 tulip stems or 5 dahlia stems.

So, it’s possible to source local flowers on a budget. It’s definitely something to consider. You can stick to your budget and be kinder to the environment — a happy occasion for all!

A view of buildings in Stockholm. They are about 7 to 8 stories tall, with ornate architecture, and by a body of water. There are small boats docked in the water.

Design & Shopping Guide: Stockholm

If you follow me on Instagram, then you may have noticed that I was traveling recently. I had a wonderful trip to Iceland, Sweden, and Denmark. Today I’m sharing some of the design and shopping highlights for Stockholm. This is not meant to be a comprehensive guide. It’s just a few of the places that I found interesting on my visit.

Design & Architecture

Stockholm Public Library
The Stadsbiblioteket was designed by Swedish architect Gunnar Asplund and opened in 1928. It was Sweden’s first public library to apply the principle of open shelves, which back in the day was an American idea. This means the public could help themselves to books off the shelves and not have to ask library staff to retrieve them. The round part of the library houses classics. It’s gorgeous inside.

Konditori Valand
Just down the street from the library is a cafe where the fixtures and furniture have remained pretty much unchanged since it opened in 1954. It’s a midcentury modern dream and a lovely place for a coffee break.

Art in the Stockholm Metro
The train stations in Stockholm are all unique, each designed by a different artist. We spent an evening just riding the metro to different stops to see them. Check out this story in the Guardian about the art in some of the stations.

Gamla Stan
This is Stockholm’s old town, dating back to the 13th century. It’s touristy but worth a wander. We joined a walking tour offered by Free Tour Stockholm, which was fun and informative. Our guide shared tidbits about history as well as architecture.

When you finish the tour, grab a tasty snack at Bröd & Salt bakery, like this kardemummabullar (a Swedish cardamom roll). It was fresh out of the oven.

Shopping

DesignTorget
DesignTorget has nicely curated selection of housewares. It seems like a good spot to pick up a gift.

Granit
When I walked into housewares store Granit, it reminded me a bit of IKEA. Then I realized that what I associated with IKEA-ness, was actually Swedishness. This store carries housewares and storage containers. The design is simple and no frills.

 

Papercut
I didn’t budget enough time to spend in Papercut, which carries a discerning selection of Swedish and international magazines and books.

Pen Store
True to its name, this store sells pens. If you are particular about writing implements, this is your place.

 Svenskt Tenn
This Swedish interior design store is famed for its bold prints. It’s quite pricey, but a walk through its substantial showroom costs nothing.

 

Stutterheim
Stutterheim
makes raincoats out of rubberized cotton in an array of colors. They are hand made and have been tested to withstand the elements. The raincoats come in a few different styles. While the proportions of the standard one didn’t fit me well, I walked out with a rain cape from the sale section. (Score!) I also picked up a beautiful zip leather wallet. I had been looking for a square zip wallet for a while, but none of the ones I came across had enough card slots for my liking. This one happily did. I love souvenirs that are practical!

Exterior of the Stutterheim store. Display by the window shoes some jackets on a rack. There is a bench right outside the window.

 

Before I left on my trip, I picked up the Lonely Planet Pocket Stockholm and Citix60: Stockholm guides. The former is good for learning about different neighborhoods and the latter is great because it has highly curated recommendations from local creatives.

two wedding bands on a white background

Setting Priorities for Your Wedding Budget (or, realizing your wedding isn’t special)

Last year around this time, I was putting the final touches on my wedding. We had a lovely ceremony under a canopy of trees with 110 guests. I’ve gotten a lot of questions from friends about wedding planning since I’m quite organized and thrifty-minded, so I thought I’d write a few posts and share what I’ve learned while it’s relatively fresh in my mind.

First things first: set your date and your budget.

How long do you need to plan a wedding?

Well, it depends. Some people say a year, but I did not relish the idea of planning a big event for an entire year. No, thank you! Now, if you have a very specific date in mind or a dream venue, then you might need to book a year or more in advance to make sure you snag your date at your venue. For us, we started five months before our date. I’ve heard of people who’ve planned everything in three months or less, but I don’t recommend that, especially if you have out-of-town guests who need to book plane tickets. I think five to six months is good if you have flexibility around your date and your venue. I will go into our timeline in another post.

We came to our date by a process of elimination. We knew we wanted it to be in the fall when the weather is generally good where we live in the San Francisco Bay Area. Then we looked at all the weekends over a two-month period and asked our closest family members and friends which dates they could make. That narrowed down our list. Once we found our venue and cross referenced it with the dates we already had, that left just a handful of dates to choose from.

Setting Your Wedding Budget

According to a survey conducted by The Knot, the average cost for a wedding in 2016 was $35,329. Wow. That’s quite a chunk of change! And that’s just the national average. Depending on where you live, it could cost more or less. In San Francisco, where I live, the average cost was $42,716.  Unless you have endless resources, you’re going to have to set a budget for your wedding. Only you and your partner will know what’s best for you. Take a good look at your finances and see what you can comfortably afford. I would also factor in a contingency, because things often cost more than you think they will.

Now, your budget is tied closely to guest count. The more guests you have, the more it will cost. I’ve known couples who had small intimate weddings with just a dozen or so guests that cost a few thousand dollars. And I’ve been to big bashes held in museums that cost many tens of thousands of dollars. So you’re going to have to figure out what the sweet spot is in terms of number of guests and the kind of experience you want. Start with your guest list and work from there. The guest list was probably the most stressful part of wedding planning for us.

Flowers and wine glasses on a table with a white tablecloth.

Photo: Cody Chan/Unplash

How to Prioritize your Wedding Budget

To keep within your budget, prioritize. What’s most important to you?

Here are some common expenses for weddings:
Venue Rental
Food & Drink
Clothing, Hair, and Makeup
Wedding Party
Photographer and Videographer
Wedding Planner
Day Of Coordinator
Officiant
Entertainment
Invitations and Website
Decorations
Favors

Real talk now. I hate to break it to you, but your wedding is not special. Most weddings follow the same structure and your guests are not going to remember every detail about it. What I’m saying is don’t sweat the small stuff. If you obsess over every single detail, you’re going to be a ball of stress (and no fun to be around). Instead, identify the top three or four things that are most important to you. Here’s what the list above looked like after we prioritized them.

Top Priority
Food & Drink
Venue
Photographer
Entertainment

Middle Prioroty
Clothing, Hair, and Makeup
Invitations and Website
Day Of Coordinator
Officiant

Low Priority
Wedding Party
Wedding Planner
Decorations
Favors
Videographer

For us, one of our top priorities was the food. I love to eat (it’s one of the things that brings pure joy to my life), and I wanted a memorable and delicious meal. I’ve been a regular at a food stall at my local farmers market and knew that I wanted them to cater our wedding.

Our choice for food affected our venue. Many venues require you to use a caterer from an approved list. We needed a venue that would allow us to use the caterer we wanted. Another priority for us was a venue that had outdoor space for our ceremony. These two parameters knocked a lot of spots off our list, but having these parameters also made the venue search easier.

Photography was another priority for us. I wanted professional photos and I also knew it was super important to my mother. My sister got married before I did and my mom’s living room basically became a shrine to my sister’s wedding. (Now it’s a shrine to both our weddings.) We also wanted fun entertainment (though we didn’t want to spend much money on this), but we had a specific idea of what we wanted to do and didn’t compromise on it.

When you know your top priorities, focus on those. The other stuff doesn’t have to be perfect. In fact, you should also make a list of what you don’t care about and question if you even want to have those things at all. These are the places where you can save money. For us, we didn’t care about a wedding party (didn’t have one at all), videographer (didn’t have one of those either), favors, or decorations. Of course, we wanted the space to look nice, but because it was low on the priority list, I only allocated $100 to decorations. (Yes, that includes flowers.)

If event planning is too stressful for you or you’re too busy for it, then it may be money well spent for you to hire a planner. But because I’m super organized and have planned large events before, we felt that we didn’t need a wedding planner. We did, however, decide on having a day of coordinator so that we could enjoy our day and not worry about any of the details or logistics on the actual day. (We also didn’t want to saddle a friend with it.) Our clothing, to a certain extent, was also not that important. I mean, of course, I care about clothing (I blog about fashion after all). I want to look awesome on my wedding day! But I was not wed (har har) to a certain idea of what I had to wear. (I didn’t wear white.) Being flexible meant that I had a wider range of options, and in the end, my entire outfit cost less than $400.

I hope this is helpful and has given you some things to think about. In upcoming posts, I will discuss our timeline, creative ways we saved money, and how I kept organized while planning. If there’s any particular topic you’re curious about, let me know and I will try to address it.

First photo: Sandy Millar/Unsplash

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Closeup of blue jeans with Holé button cover.

Holé Button Cover Review

Earlier this year, I reviewed some Everlane T-shirts and noticed that one of them had a small hole at the bottom in the front. This was not the first time a shirt developed a hole in this area. Perhaps it had something to do with my jeans. Was the button on my jeans rubbing my T-shirt?

Well, there’s a solution for that. A company out of the UK called Holé makes silicone button covers, and they sent me their product as a gift to try.


Holé gifted me their product for review. As always, all opinions are my own.


Package of Holé button covers. It's a black paper packet.

The package comes with four button covers — two in black and two transparent — and retails for £10.00 (about $13 USD). They have a smooth rubbery texture and are flexible.

Four Holé button covers. They are made of silicone. Two are black, two are transparent-ish.

Here’s what they look like from the back:

Holé button cover as shown from the back. There are four, two in black, two transparent.

To get the button cover on your button, you kind stretch it and try to get it to latch onto one side of the button, then pull the rest of it on. This is not exactly an easy thing to do (at least for me). It took me about two minutes to install one cover.

Here’s a pair of jeans before Holé:

Close up of fly and button of a pair of blue jeans.

And here’s what it looks like with the transparent button cover on it:

Closeup of blue jeans with Holé button cover.

The black cover blends in nicely with black jeans:

Closeup of fly of black pair of jeans with a Holé button cover.

I’ve been trying them out for about four months. One thing that you have to get used to is that the Holé increases the thickness of your button, so make sure that you really pull the button all the way through your button hole. I had a habit of not doing this and would find my pants popping open suddenly! Ooops!

I leave the button covers on my jeans and just throw them in the wash. Since I air dry my jeans, they never go in the dryer. Silicone is typically heat-resistant — that’s why there are so many kitchen objects made out of silicone. So my guess is that it’s probably OK to put them in the dryer, but I haven’t tested that.

Now for the most important question: Do they help prevent holes in my shirts? Well, it’s kind of like eye cream. How do you know if something is working if it’s preventative? While I haven’t noticed any new holes in my shirts, it’s hard to say if they would have developed holes without the button covers. I guess the real way to test this out would be to have two identical outfits — one with the Holé and one without, and to wear them with the same frequency over a stretch of time. I wasn’t disciplined enough to do that.

As I received this product as a gift, I think it’s important to ask myself: would I have paid full price for this item? Probably. $13 is a small price to pay for the possibility of preventing holes in my shirts. I’ve definitely had more than $13 worth of shirts ruined by holes, so if there’s a chance that this product does what it says it does, then that’s money well spent. And if it’s not, it’s the cost of a lunch, so it’s not a big loss.

Even though I don’t know if they’re helping, they’re definitely not hurting, and they make sense to me, so I’m going to keep using them.